It can be hard keeping sex fun – especially when you’re trying to make a baby without success. Keeping track of the ovulation calendar, sticking to the best sexual position and the mental preoccupation with conception can all take their toll.
So here are some ideas to help you bring back the fun into your sex life!
Bring Back The Fun
After months or years of trying to conceive, you’ll probably be using fertility charts to try and work out the best time to have sex. But it’s exactly this lack of spontaneity that can make sex become an issue and a chore for couples trying to conceive, rather than something to enjoy.
So try to recapture the fun of making love by doing things that you once loved to do. Because, the more relaxed you are, the better your chance of conceiving.
Whatever the outcome of your trying to conceive, always try and stay positive. The chances of getting pregnant in each cycle vary according to a wide range of factors, but perhaps the most important one is the woman’s age.
For example, for a woman aged 20-25, the chances of conceiving are around 25 per cent for each cycle (that is a one in four chance). On an average, a couple in their early 20s may take an average of 5 cycles to conceive. A woman aged 30-35 has a 15 per cent in each cycle and may take around 9 cycles to conceive. And, one in ten couples will take more than a year to succeed in conceiving.
So if you’re 32 and you’ve been trying for six months, take comfort in the fact that the average woman of your age takes nine cycles to conceive. So try to relax and think positive – 90 per cent of couples will conceive in the first year of trying.
Keep It Spontaneous
If you haven’t been given medical advice to have sex at a certain time, then try and stay spontaneous, having sex when you feel like.
Think about different positions too – though doctors may not insist on it. For example, you could try keeping your legs in the air for ten minutes afterwards. If nothing else, the unusual positions could make you and your partner laugh, and keep things fun, even though you are trying for a baby.
Take A Break
If possible, try and get away for a romantic weekend together – around ovulation time. If you already have a child, a stay for the child at granny’s house will free you up from morning routines and give you and your partner a chance to lie in and try some morning sex for a change.
If you don’t have a child yet, then a romantic break away should put you in a happy, relaxed mood that might just mean you end up pregnant!
Tips & Tricks
Dieting during pregnancy can cause abnormalities and a low birth weight in your baby; therefore your ideal weight should be reached before pregnancy.
Taking folic acid in its natural form before pregnancy can prevent serious birth defects. You can find them in fruits and vegetables, fortified cereals, and enriched bread products. If you’re planning to conceive, you should consume at least 400 micrograms of folic acid a day.
If you are on contraceptive pills, it could take a few months before your periods are regular and you begin ovulating again. It usually is best to stop the pills at the end of a cycle to avoid mid-cycle bleeding.
Before buying a home pregnancy test kit, be sure to check the expiry date. For accurate results, take the test after one week after the missed period; testing very early, can give you negative results.
Green tea and orange pekoe (popularly known as 'regular') are considered to be excellent fertility enhancers. Research has shown that women who regularly drink tea, increase their chance of conception.