We actually have a very strange problem. Our son Rajiv is now three years old and is in perfect health. We are very happy with the way he’s growing and learning everyday. The problem is that Rajiv is very naughty. Many people have advised us that naughtiness is a good thing and indicates a healthy child. Some people have even told us we’re lucky to have a naughty child because of the endless hours of entertainment. But the truth is that it is exhausting. He’s at the age where he needs to explore and investigate everything. I’m not worried about him damaging our things. I’m very worried that he will hurt himself. Because of this I follow him around like a shadow and end up tiring myself out completely.
Lately we have tried a new strategy. We switch off the lights in all the rooms expect the living room and we both sit down and chat. Because Rajiv is afraid of the dark, he doesn’t venture far and stays within the living room. This works well for us whenever we need some rest and relaxation. But now I am filled with guilt. I feel like I’m fueling his fear of the dark and instead of encouraging him to get over it, I’m using his fear to my advantage. I feel like such a bad mother. I don’t know what to do. If I just let him run wild, I’m too tired to be a decent mother anyway. I feel so helpless! What do I do?