10 year old Maya comes skipping jauntily to her mother who is pre-occupied in front of her laptop. Engrossed with office work, mother cuts her off briskly with a quick wave of her hands, even without taking her eyes off from the screen. Maya was just about to pour out the day’s events at school – when she was ticked off and told to come later. However, the ‘later’ never happened and mother eventually missed out on all the exciting news that Maya had saved up just for her.
Doesn’t this scenario sound all too familiar?
With our hectic work schedules and demanding lifestyles eating into most of our personal space and time, we are hardly able to spare time for our children – or family! Unfortunately, what we parents don’t realize is that in our efforts to give them a quality life, we are denying them quality time. Not giving children their due attention can impact their personal development and character in the long-run. After all, who better than parents can teach children?
Spending time with children can be more rewarding than working! Even dedicating 20 minutes a day can help children grow up to be happier and healthier. It also gives them a great deal of security.
Here’s how you can give them their daily dose of attention
• Put aside the mobile phone while driving them around and use the commute time to talk to them.
• Give them odd jobs and involve them in household chores. It gives them a sense of responsibility
• Give them a tight hug. Surely you can spare time for a few hugs. Hugging your children makes them feel special and cared for
• Eat together. Family mealtimes are a great way to catch up with each other.
• Help them with their homework. It not only helps you keep up with what they are doing at school, but children also love the personal attention they are getting
• Bring out the child in you and join in with their games. You could reserve this for the weekends and holidays
The positives of spending time
• It makes them feel wanted and builds self-confidence
• It reduces negative behavior and encourages healthy habits
• The chances of the child going astray is far less
• It helps strengthen parent-child bond and develop a positive relationship